The truth is, this is still part of the journey for me. I have basically pushed away any "friends" that I had. I put friends in quotation marks because I now understand that friendship needs to be a two-way street. In the past, I didn't have this perception. I took all I could. I talked about my drama and problems and sought support all of the time. I didn't have the insight or emotional strength to BE a friend and to give those things in return.
I'm always offended when people say that those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder tend to "lack empathy," because I so often become so emotionally moved by others' emotions, that I can't imagine being thought of as not being empathetic. But maybe this is where the need to grow in empathy is showing up. (?)