I also free those people who I have considered offenders. I don't approve of what they did, but I accept that they also cannot go back and right their wrongs. They can't go back in the many ways that they wish they could re-do parts of their lives. And neither can their parents. Or their parents. Acknowledging this helps me to tap into compassion.
This experience has also helped me to look at the fact that I have done things in my life that others may be thinking about now and affected by -- and not all in a positive way. To anyone out there for which this may be true, I am so very sorry. May you receive the healing you need, and may my apology reach your heart if I am not able to apologize to you face-to-face.
I never thought I'd say this, but in this particular case, when it comes to radically accepting the past, I encourage you to "let go of the hope."