- "A boundary is a limit or edge that defines you as separate from others. A boundary is a limit that promotes integrity (3)
- Boundaries bring order to our lives. As we learn to strengthen our boundaries, we gain a clearer sense of ourselves and our relationships to others. Boundaries empower us to determine how we'll be treated by others (5)
- Our emotional health is related to the health of our boundaries (8)"
Another quote from the book is one that I found very relevant in my life right now. Being that I am very active on Twitter, I encounter others who are at many different points on their own personal journeys. At times, things others say can be triggering. I set my limits by asking kindly if "TW," the code for "Trigger Warning" could be placed at the the beginning of such tweets. If someone declines, I choose to "unfollow" them to take care of my own personal boundaries and engage in self-care. I used to forgo using Twitter during those times, but I no longer want to handle it that way, missing out on something I enjoy.
Recently, a person on Twitter with whom I've interacted many times (who is usually quite kind, fun, and helpful), was evidently dealing with some painful issues of her own. Her tweets about her eating disorder and cruel comments about body image made me feel upset. I let her know this firmly. She responded in sarcasm and passive aggressive tweets. I remained kind and asked if the person would like to continue to be connected because I did not have time for immaturity or games. I was SO proud of myself. I wasn't trying to be mean. Instead, I was practicing this:
"I set my emotional boundary by choosing how I'll let people treat me. One way I do this is by setting limits on what people can say to me." (15)