I ate most of it and carried around my juice until I finished it.
Anxiety was sky high. At first, I was complaining that the parade just had to land on the day I needed to be at this meeting, but then, I began to see it as a gift. As early as 6:00 am, Giants fans from all over began to line the streets as the police put up barricades to set off the path for the parade that would come 5 hours later. The energy all around me was so positive. Had it been an ordinary day, the dark, misty, drizzly streets of San Francisco might have felt lonely in that area of town, but instead, it was lined with people of all ages and backgrounds, dressed in their sports gear, smiling, and in a great mood.
People were excited and pumped. They, too, had gotten up extraordinarily early, and I imagined that they were experiencing similar symptoms as me, but they were interpreting it as excitement. The symptoms of anxiety and excitement are very close.
My SO and I decided to walk around. I acknowledged that the presence of the parade preparation and the gathering of thousands of people truly was a gift. I imagined absorbing and becoming part of all of the positive energy around me and releasing the negative energy to far, far away. It seemed to help. We chit chatted with some families, got really close to the fence and thought about what a good view we would have had if the parade had been our true destination that morning.
We took photos. This is of the clock tower at AT&T Park with the Champions banner on it.
Here is some of the crowd and the television news station vans that were showing up.
More crowds lining the streets as the sun began to come up.
They brought in lunch. Other than that, they offered tons of snacks and beverages to keep us going through the day and into the night. I haven't had "Goldfish" crackers probably since I was a little girl. Perhaps that's why I was so drawn to them for comfort. I self-soothed through taste. Since we didn't have a formal dinner, another bag became part of my evening snacking, too. Something about crunching on them, tasting the salt, and the cute packaging all comforted me, even if just a little bit. (Sometimes it really is the "little things," isn't it?)
The meeting carried on and on and on. Although I was incredibly relieved to find out I would NOT have to talk about details of past abuse, it was still intense and stressful. On breaks, my SO and I would use the free wifi to distract with an episode of Seinfeld to help reduce stress and get us to laugh a bit. This really helped.
- I continue to appreciate the Healing From BPD community both on Facebook and Twitter. Knowing you were with me in spirit and just a message away on my phone meant the world to me.
- In facing this, I think certain individuals feared I would feel or become "destroyed." Through my fragility, I acknowledged all of the times in my life that I have overcome tremendous adversaries and still came out as a person who smiles, is kind, has hope, and is in tact. I knew that the day would bring incredible emotional trials, but I declared that I had been through much worse and came out okay. Even though it was challenging to face and cope with the emotions that would come up, I would not be destroyed. I would get through it and heal. I want you to remember that next time you have to face something serious and incredibly difficult. If you're reading this blog, chance are you've been through a thing or two in your life that others couldn't imagine overcoming. You got through those things, you'll get through other things. Just like me, you're an Emotional Warrior!
- You find out how much people really care and love you when they show up when really needed. I definitely felt that love yesterday and am so grateful.
- You can take any situation and put a positive spin on it, as I did with the Giants' parade happening the day of my meeting, the childhood snacks that were available, and the spectacular views I got to see while I did deep breathing to calm me several times during the day.
- I did end up suffering quite a bit unnecessarily, as I worried endlessly about running into the opposing party and about needing to talk about the details of abuse when I was younger. Neither happened. I was under the impression, up until I arrived, that these were possibilities, so there was cause for my concern, but next time I will leave more room for other possible outcomes and try not to worry so much in advance of potentially stressful events.
- Self-care must be ongoing. My appetite is still suffering today due to continued anxiety. I ended up taking an Ativan, followed by a nap. I'm drinking lots of water, had an Ensure, and have grazed on other snacks. Tonight is pizza night in my house, and whether I feel like it or not, I'm having some. Hopefully, I'll also enjoy it. :) I have my last day of IOP tomorrow. In light of the radical changes I've experienced, I'm not sure if I'm ready to graduate. I'm very realistic that it is a short-term program, but I also feel that I temporarily need more ongoing support, so I am going to advocate for myself around that. Maybe there are some other groups I can attend while I am continuing to get on my feet after all of this.
- Always, always believe in your strength and inner wisdom.
Please do not forget how strong you are. No matter what you are going through, it can't last forever. You have overcome before, and you will overcome again.
Thank you for reading.