Blocks To Listening When You Have BPD or Are Emotionally Sensitive

Whether you have BPD or are an emotionally sensitive person, you might be able to relate to some of these "blocks to listening" that are the topic of discussion in one of the online Interpersonal Effectiveness classes that I co-facilitate over at DBT Path.
I have to be honest and share that when I was in the thick of Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms, I was unaware that I had many of these blocks.  In retrospect, I can see them now.  I am also aware that I currently still engage in/experience some of these blocks.  Awareness is a very important first step to shifting patterns and growing.
I hope to help save a lot of you much pain by asking you to consider whether you experience any of these.  If someone has pointed them out to you and you do not agree and become defensive (as was the scenario that played out with me many times), I ask that you again consider whether there is any validity to the accusation.
In doing this, please have compassion for yourself. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. In fact, people without any type of mental health diagnosis experience these blocks from time to time and varying degrees.  We can work on becoming better listeners and communicators -- essential ingredients for creating and maintaining strong relationships and building lives worth living.

Here's the video:

Thank you for watching and listening.
I look forward to your comments!
More soon.
In kindness,


  1. Hello like minded spirit!

    "Thank god I'm not the only one!" is such an understatement. Your blog is great, and you are doing such a great service to humanity, those with and not with BPD.

    I'm on a waiting list now to do DBT. I had never heard of it, and my therapy involved reading 'Sometimes I Act Crazy', which was extremely helpful, but I guess there is more good to come. The sheer hope of know that more help is on it's way is a great cure too.

    Thank for your wonderful work.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, dear Kate! It really meant a lot to read them tonight.

      In the meantime, while you're on the waiting list, be sure to explore this site for many ideas on DBT. Another good resource is DBT Self Help, and as you probably know, DBT Path is where I co-facilitate online DBT classes with a licensed therapist. You're on your way!



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