I also mean to say that many of us with BPD have a tendency to shape-shift, if you will, to become like whoever it is that we are talking to at the moment, trying to impress, or who we like and want to like us back.
When I was in high school, if someone asked me what kind of music I liked, (and my musical taste was and is quite eclectic and varied), I think my mind would do a split second assessment of what I though that person must like (based on their clothes, hair, makeup), and I’d respond with the type of music I thought would impress them or give us something in common.
For example, if I met this girl, I’d say I liked goth music. 🙂
Have you ever done anything like that? I have found that sometimes this trait can have positive results.