United States of Tara and My Borderline Personality

I’m bummed to learn that the Showtime Original Series, “United States of Tara,” which I’ve been watching via Netflix, was cancelled last June.  I love this show. Although the main character, Tara, (played brilliantly by Toni Colette) has Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder), and I have Borderline Personality Disorder, I love […]

Chameleon Phenomenon in Borderline Personality Disorder

I have another post where I talk about how many of us with Borderline Personality Disorder behave or feel like chameleons, called “Sundays Can Be Difficult for the BPD Chameleon,” and this post today focuses on a specific example of the chameleon phenomenon and what I have begun to notice. I was visiting my boyfriend […]

Feeling Lonely: Just Me & my BPD

I feel lonely today, and I have fought back tears on a couple of occasions – once during a quiet moment in yoga this morning, and another just now as I began typing this.  You see, I’ve done a good job at isolating myself so that I don’t have to try at relationships.  I had […]

Practicing the “Radical Acceptance” DBT Skill in Baby Steps

There is an enormous relief that comes with practicing the “Radical Acceptance” DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skill.  When you embrace a situation, emotion, or feeling without trying to change it — when you accept it with 100% of your body, mind, and spirit, you can gain a sense of peace that isn’t otherwise possible. Before […]

Using Distraction DBT Skill for Dissociating & Distress

I have been having more episodes of dissociation lately.  There is one topic in particular that triggers me – my boyfriend is planning to go away for a while.  Almost every time he begins to discuss the particulars, I sense myself drifting off. Sometimes I don’t sense anything and realize it after a few minutes […]

Boredom & The Borderline (BPD & Self-harm)

As a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, I can attest – boredom, or being idle, truly is “the devil’s playground.” It seems that when boredom hits me, it’s much more intense than it is for other people, and I desperately feel the need to feel something – anything. I’ve heard a theory that, since many […]

How To Change Your Emotions [If you WANT to]

Today in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) class, we covered the Emotion Regulation Skill of “Opposite Action.”  In this post, I summarize what I got out of the video we watched by Marsha Linehan. No copyright infringement intended. Just passing along knowledge to better process the material myself and to help others. How to Change Emotions […]

DBT Skills for Dissociation

I put my DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills to work today. Unfortunately, I experienced a panic attack and a couple of episodes of dissociation. The panic attack happened during a group exercise at the gym.  My impulse was to run from the room to “safety,” but I used Wise Mind to remind myself that I […]

Sometimes I Act Like a Little Girl | Borderline Personality Disorder

Some interesting insights tonight as well as some big question marks.   Netflix recommended a television series to me called “United States of Tara.” In it, Australian actress Toni Colette brilliantly plays a woman who is diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. While this disorder is quite different from […]

Practicing Radical Acceptance & Non Judgment (DBT Skills) With the Weather

Lately I’ve been wanting to apply the DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills of Radical Acceptance  and Non-Judgment to the moodiness that I often experience at night.  It’s been challenging. Today, Life gave me the opportunity to see how to put the skill into practice.  I love warm weather and sunny skies. I also enjoy an […]