|From Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder by Marsha Linehan|
Lately I have been dissociating when my boyfriend talks about his plans to go and live with family abroad for a few months. I volunteered to use my situation as an example for the class, anticipating that I would also gain insight and help from the experience. And, I did.
I wanted to stop the dissociation, but dissociation isn’t an emotion. It’s mentally checking out…feeling numb…it’s more of an absence of emotion. I had to get to the emotion that has been causing me to dissociate.
After looking through the pages that describe emotions in my DBT binder, I quickly realized that the emotion is Fear. Some of the “Prompting Events for Feeling Fear” that I identified with were:
- Being in a similar or the same situation where you have been threatened or gotten hurt in the past, or where painful things have happened
- Being alone