Butcher, Baker, Candlestick Maker: Career Issues with BPD Identity Disturbance

Someone made an interesting observation about me the other day, and I have to admit, it’s true.  Over the years, I’ve had a very difficult time sticking with any one job or professional career path.  I have gotten easily bored and, in the past (before learning DBT), would take this as a cue that I […]

8 Day DBT Challenge to Feel Better

The mind is quite amazing. I often hear people talk about how they felt so anxious that it made their stomach upset or so stressed that they ended up with a headache. I’ve experienced these sorts of things myself. The mind is THAT powerful. But, the good news is that if the mind is powerful […]

Using DBT Skills to Have an Overall Better Day

The great thing about DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills is that they are not only useful in times of crisis, but they can also become a helpful every day part of your life.I’ve integrated the skills and am so thankful for them. Before starting DBT, I was very unstable.  My moods shifted from one minute […]

Child-like Aspects of Borderline Personality Disorder

Not too long ago, I asked the therapist who runs the DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) group that I attend why it might be that I have acted out in such childish ways when feeling needy or afraid. I asked after hearing a couple of other patients check in about their past week and noticing that […]

DBT for Severe Anxiety and Panic Attacks

You think you’ve made progress. You’ve been doing well, and anxiety and panic attacks almost seem like some surreal experience from long ago. Then, in response to a particular situation (or perhaps for no apparent reason at all), you find yourself overcome and overwhelmed with anxiety and/or panic. Image Credit This was me over the past couple […]

How To Handle When Others Can’t Handle Your Changes or Progress (Mental Health)

What happens when you start to get better and those around you are hesitant to believe it or are uncomfortable with the changes you are undergoing? Most of us with Borderline Personality Disorder readily acknowledge that prior to learning effective skills for regulating and coping with our emotions, we often in engaged in destructive behaviors. We may […]

Free Help With DBT Homework – Just Ask!

PRESS RELEASE pdf As many of my readers know – I don’t just attend DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), but I have adopted the principles and concepts and integrated them into my life on a regular, daily basis.  This happened pretty naturally, as I saw success after success and improvements in my life in so many […]

Invalidating Environments & Borderline Personality Disorder

During DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) group today, one of my peers mentioned that out of all of the hell she experienced growing up as a child who was abused and in a very invalidating environment, the one thing she learned from her parents was that she can do ANYTHING on her own.  Our therapist said that […]

Make Your Own Self Soothing Kit (DBT – Self Soothe)

If you were to make a self-soothing kit that you could easily take with you wherever you go, what would be inside?  The goal would be to bring at least one item that soothes each of your senses.  I am considering putting together such a kit, and here is what I imagine I will include: […]

Spotting Black or White Thinking & Finding Shades of Grey (DBT)

In DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) class, we often hear about the concept of “Black or White,” “All or Nothing,” or “Extreme” thinking. This seems to be a pretty classic symptom among those of us with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder).  In order to support us in becoming more emotionally stable and less extreme in our thoughts […]