She likes me, She likes me not. | Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (BPD)

I recently decided to let my walls down a bit when it comes to connecting with others.  A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about a blossoming friendship with my coworker. For the most part, things have been going well, though I must admit that figuring out boundaries, not getting too intense, and not worrying […]

Feel Good Diary Sheets | A tool for remembering

Do you have trouble remembering the “good” and pleasant moments and memories when you are in a crisis or dealing with intense, difficult emotions?  I know that this has been a challenge for me on many occasions, and that this is a particularly challenging thing to do for a lot of people who have Borderline […]

Getting Through The Darkest Days of Mental Illness | Borderline Personality Disorder

How do you get through the darkest days that come due to mental illness?  In this video, I discuss my own personal experience around: Coping with and getting through the darkest days that we encounter as a part of suffering from and living with mental illness Tolerating the distress of miserable emotions The power of […]

A difficult few days | Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD

What do you do when you’ve been going along fine, feeling mentally well, and feeling stable — when suddenly, as if out of nowhere (though you later discover there was, as Dr. Marsha Linehan says, “cause”), you have an episode, and it feels like you’ve backtracked? This is going to be a long one. Writing […]

I don’t feel like it! | Using DBT Skills (Even when you don’t feel like it)

Despite being well-versed in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), I found it difficult to use my skills when I needed them most.  I hoped and wished for some miracle to suddenly make everything ok — to make me feel better and to fill the void I felt inside. I felt almost paralyzed and stuck in my […]

Hello. I Love You. Won’t you tell me your name? | Boundaries and Borderline Personality Disorder

“Hello. I love you. Won’t you tell me your name?”  Boundaries and Borderline Personality Disorder — That’s what this post is about.   When I first meet someone, I know that all of my insecurities come up. I desperately want everyone to like and approve of me.  Of course, this probably stems from a childhood […]

Why Do We Feel Empty? | Emptiness and Borderline Personality Disorder

Feelings of emptiness can sometimes creep up unexpectedly when you have Borderline Personality Disorder. How do you cope when this feeling takes over? {via} Several of my readers have asked “What do you do when you experience that deep feeling of emptiness? How do you tolerate it?!”Do you ever feel “emptiness”?Prior to and shortly after […]

DBT Diary Card – There’s an App for that! (Review) – Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Many of us have the best of intentions when it comes to filling out and submitting our DBT  Diary Cards, but for some reason, we have difficulty following through. Well, it turns out that there’s an app for that! A few months ago, I began using an app called DBT Diary Card and Skills Coach […]

911 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills for When You’re Triggered

When things get so intense that you begin to go into crisis, it’s time to pull out your 911 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills. In this post, I will briefly go into a situation that triggered me today (it’s about an abusive alcoholic… if that might be a trigger for you, you can skip the italicized […]

What’s in my DBT Binder? (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)

In this detailed video, I show you the contents of my DBT Binder, including the four basic modules: My DBT Binder Mindfulness Emotion Regulation Distress Tolerance Interpersonal Effectiveness and a homework section. Whether you want to compare the contents of your DBT Binder with mine or if you are curious as to what is in […]