In this post, I will briefly go into a situation that triggered me today (it’s about an abusive alcoholic… if that might be a trigger for you, you can skip the italicized section to avoid…) and then what I did to cope. I will then add some ideas for a DBT Crisis Toolbox that you may find helpful to put together for when things get really difficult to handle. If you have additional ideas on what could go in such a self-care kit, please let me know your thoughts.
Right now, it’s 911 on the DBT skills, because his drunken cruelty has triggered me.
Also, another colleague suggested I move out of my office to a desk space upstairs so that they can store boxes in my space. That would suck, but I could live with it and make the best of it.
Doing the best I can. Breathing. Just this moment. All is well.
The great thing about all of this work in Dialectical Behavior Therapy is that when you apply it outside of the clinical group/class setting, it works. I’ll keep you updated with how it goes and some ideas on dealing with being triggered.
- jaw clenching
- shoulders and neck tensing
- the impulse or desire to run from the situation
- The impulse to be Mother Hen and take care of all of my coworkers
- Impulse to cause a scene/get out of control emotionally