The Setup Setback: Abandonment and Impulsiveness issues with Borderline Personality Disorder

Do those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder tend to act or behave in ways that set us up for our worst fear: abandonment?  This post explores this question with my own personal example.As some of my Twitter and Facebook followers know, I have been going through a stressful ordeal. And while I can’t get […]

“Re-Wiring” our Nervous System’s Reaction to Stress and Trauma (using Dialectical Behavior Therapy)

This week in the Distress Tolerance DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) group that I attend, our therapist/group leader spoke about the interesting ways in which our nervous systems have been conditioned and thus affect our present responses and reactions to stress.I learned that our nervous systems have adapted to react to stressful situations based on past […]

Getting Skillful and Avoiding a Crisis Using DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)

More DBT for Me:My therapist and I recently agreed to add a second weekly DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) group to my treatment plan while I am going through a few very stressful issues simultaneously.The module that I am now attending (in addition to the full DBT course) is Distress Tolerance. Distress Tolerance skills are intended […]

Catastrophizing Alternatives for Emotionally Sensitive People

A common trait in those of us diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (and those diagnosed with a number of anxiety disorders as well, for that matter) is a tendency to jump to the worst possible scenario when a problem arises. We then often spend our time stressing and freaking out over the worst possible scenario […]

Altering Your Mood with Music (DBT: Opposite Action)

A reader on my Facebook page asked me an interesting question about emotional triggers yesterday. She asked if triggers, which are normally referenced in mental health discussions as things/stimuli that can bring up traumatic past experiences, can also call up “good” memories through listening to certain songs, smells, or sights that remind you of good […]

Inappropriate Anger Outbursts – Borderline Personality Disorder

I am shocked at what happened this afternoon. At my own behavior, really.I had an angry outburst in the middle of a supermarket and looked my boyfriend in the eyes and said, in a hostile, cold voice: “F___ You!”  The visceral sensations (blood pressure rising, everything else around me fading) reminded me of a time […]

When News Stories Are Triggering | Using DBT to Recoup

Many of us with Borderline Personality Disorder also have symptoms of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  Even if we do not, there may be certain subjects and circumstances that can “trigger” us into a troubled state, whether we flashback to the past or feel extremely frightened, as if we were in present danger even if […]

Crying Over Coleslaw | Everything Has “Cause” (Emotional Reactions to “Small Things”)

According to Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), designed to help those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder (and other mental illnesses): “Everything has cause.“By this she means that something happened before whatever is happening now, and if that event had been different, so would whatever is happening in this moment. Everything is part […]

6 Ways To Get The MOST out of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)

1. Show Up: It sounds so simple, but it is, of course, essential. Some groups have specific attendance requirements, but it’s a good idea to set a goal for yourself that no matter how you feel mentally on the day of group, you will show up.  In doing so, you’ll be practicing the DBT skill of […]

Goodbye Norma Jean | Did Marilyn Monroe have Borderline Personality Disorder?

  Goodbye Norma Jean | Did Marilyn Monroe have Borderline Personality Disorder?*Trigger Warning: This post contains frank discussion about the nature of American actress Marilyn Monroe’s passing and her psychiatric suffering.  The post does come around to an encouraging end, but please use discretion and take care of yourself and your well-being.* I have always adored […]