Radically Accepting Uncomfortable Emotions (DBT)

Today’s Distress Tolerance DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) class focused on the Acceptance skill.  When our therapist began describing how we would practice this skill, it felt very counter-intuitive to me.  What? You want me to ACCEPT the intense anxiety I’ve been experiencing? Heck no! I want to kick at it and scream at it and push it […]

The Impermanence of Emotions (Intense Anxiety)

Today started off quite anxiety-filled. Last night, I was awakened by the creepiest sound of something burrowing and scratching inside of my wall. My cats were mesmerized. I don’t know what it was, but I was afraid.  I banged on the wall, and it would stop for a few minutes, then it went right back […]

Identity Formation (and Disturbance) with Borderline Personality Disorder

Once again during DBT group this week, our therapist brought up how it’s a healthy practice to pick someone on television (or in real life) who handles emotional situations the way we’d like to, and then use that inspiration as a model for our own behavior.I recently blogged about how the character Jane Bingum of Drop Dead […]

Coping With Abandonment Issues (and I think P!nk “gets” us)

Yesterday, I had to drop my boyfriend off at the airport. (I wrote about how my fear of abandonment has been triggered, here, the other day.)He’s only going away for a little over a week, but trying to calm my inner child (and nervous system) with that bit of information is challenging.Here’s a pic I took of […]

DBT Golden Nugget: The DBT Mindful Minute

Last night on Facebook, I came across something interesting that a friend posted. Intrigued, I gave it a look.  It’s a short animated video during which you are lead to practice one moment of meditation.It may not sound like much, but I honestly felt so much better even after just one minute of practicing, so […]

Fear of Abandonment: When You Go Away, I Regress To a Child

 I tried to explain to a loved one yesterday that I am heal-ING from Borderline Personality Disorder. I still meet the criteria for the disorder, and I am still symptomatic. The good news is that most of the time, I am able to apply the DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills that I’ve been learning for […]

DBT Distress Tolerance Skill: Prayer

This week in DBT, one of my fellow group members went over her Diary Card. She shared that she used the skill of Prayer, a Distress Tolerance Skill that falls under the “Improve The Moment Section.”ImageryMeaningPrayerRelaxationOne thing at a timeVacationEncouragement(Above list from page 165 of what I consider to be the essential DBT Bible: Skills Training […]

DBT Diva: DEAR MAN Skills

Today in DBT group, we covered the Interpersonal Effectiveness “DEAR MAN” skills. As you can see from the image above, the acronym stands for: DescribeExpressAssertReinforce (stay) MindfulAppear ConfidentNegotiate (From Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 8: Guidelines for Objectives Effectiveness: Getting What You Want, from Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder by Dr. Marsha Linehan) Our group therapist asked us if […]

New Book Coming Out on Borderline Personality Disorder and Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Dear Readers,It is with great pleasure that I share this press release with you. Please join me in my excitement:

DBT Golden Nugget: But I Can’t Wait!

I’ve noticed something about myself that gets me in trouble from time to time: I don’t have much patience.  It’s very difficult for me to sit with waiting for something when the outcome is unknown, or, more precisely, when it is not guaranteed to go in my favor.I like things to be resolved, answered, and […]