DBT Distress Tolerance Skill: Prayer
Identity disturbance: Markedly or persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
I found an in-depth elaboration of this on PsychCentral:
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Identity disturbance: Markedly or persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
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Being a Christian I think this is great. I struggle with prayer though when I'm down, I feel like I can't talk to God when I'm depressed.
With regard to the potential conflict, I think the most important thing to recognise is that we all have the capability to look at situations from a moral perspective, no matter what our faith is. I think that some Christians believe that atheists and people of other faiths do not have basic morals, and that some atheists think they are being accused of having no morals… It gets into such a sticky situation because everyone is assuming something negative about each other!
Anyway, for me, it is like this – I am diagnosed BPD, and self-diagnosed ADD. I think that the latter means that I really thrive when I have checklists and rules to follow. I could probably just use my brain to alleviate the black-and-whiteness of my thoughts, but I don't always trust my brain, so it helps to call on God during that time. I don't allocate specific time to prayer (I don't consider meditation to be useful, as I am a serious over-thinker) but I chat to God throughout the day.
Remembering to thank Him for the amazingly good things in my life helps me to recognise how good those things are. Likewise, praying that people who do and say bad things will learn to be better lifts them out of the "villain" role and places them (in my mind) as someone on a journey to become better. It's still trying to read people, but I feel that it's more constructive.
This builds my optimism, as I move from that to thinking about how the world over time has become kinder and more tolerant (more voluntary charity, more acceptance of differences, etc). I find that particularly useful when I am in a "frozen by fear" kind of mood – it helps to life me out of it.
With regard to the potential conflict, I think the most important thing to recognise is that we all have the capability to look at situations from a moral perspective, no matter what our faith is. I think that some Christians believe that atheists and people of other faiths do not have basic morals, and that some atheists think they are being accused of having no morals… It gets into such a sticky situation because everyone is assuming something negative about each other!
Anyway, for me, it is like this – I am diagnosed BPD, and self-diagnosed ADD. I think that the latter means that I really thrive when I have checklists and rules to follow. I could probably just use my brain to alleviate the black-and-whiteness of my thoughts, but I don't always trust my brain, so it helps to call on God during that time. I don't allocate specific time to prayer (I don't consider meditation to be useful, as I am a serious over-thinker) but I chat to God throughout the day.
Remembering to thank Him for the amazingly good things in my life helps me to recognise how good those things are. Likewise, praying that people who do and say bad things will learn to be better lifts them out of the "villain" role and places them (in my mind) as someone on a journey to become better. It's still trying to read people, but I feel that it's more constructive.
This builds my optimism, as I move from that to thinking about how the world over time has become kinder and more tolerant (more voluntary charity, more acceptance of differences, etc). I find that particularly useful when I am in a "frozen by fear" kind of mood – it helps to life me out of it.
Prayer helps me cope with life. I know God is uncondionally loving and just talking to Him and, at times, crying out to Him, always gives me a renewed sense of peace and hope. He is always with me, and knowing this gives me comfort. I would not be here if I did not have my faith.
Prayer helps me cope with life. I know God is uncondionally loving and just talking to Him and, at times, crying out to Him, always gives me a renewed sense of peace and hope. He is always with me, and knowing this gives me comfort. I would not be here if I did not have my faith.
My higher power is my father. he passed in 2010..his death has been my downfall…got severely worse after losing him. when i am having an episode or losing my patience or im crying and i can't stop…i ask much father for the strength to get thru it. i talk to him alot…when im alone…it sometimes helps me cope….sometimes it makes me worse cuz i miss him so much. but most of the time its soothing to talk to him….especially on the drive home from a bad day at work.
My higher power is my father. he passed in 2010..his death has been my downfall…got severely worse after losing him. when i am having an episode or losing my patience or im crying and i can't stop…i ask much father for the strength to get thru it. i talk to him alot…when im alone…it sometimes helps me cope….sometimes it makes me worse cuz i miss him so much. but most of the time its soothing to talk to him….especially on the drive home from a bad day at work.
I commend you for being able to bring up religion as it is a sensitive subject to most; especially with the turmoil it brings in today's society. Personally I have successfully avoided this exercise in DBT for almost a year now. I would define myself as an Atheist but I do incorporate a lot of Buddhist teachings into my life style. Ironic considering I was raised Presbyterian, went to private Christian schools my whole life and attended a Presbyterian college to get my BA in Philosophy. LOL! Funny how it all works out, huh? But in the end I think it has made me a fairly well rounded person knowledged in many areas. Again, I commend you for just having the courage to speak out about such a sensitive subject involving our therapy. 🙂
I commend you for being able to bring up religion as it is a sensitive subject to most; especially with the turmoil it brings in today's society. Personally I have successfully avoided this exercise in DBT for almost a year now. I would define myself as an Atheist but I do incorporate a lot of Buddhist teachings into my life style. Ironic considering I was raised Presbyterian, went to private Christian schools my whole life and attended a Presbyterian college to get my BA in Philosophy. LOL! Funny how it all works out, huh? But in the end I think it has made me a fairly well rounded person knowledged in many areas. Again, I commend you for just having the courage to speak out about such a sensitive subject involving our therapy. 🙂
Hi Debbie, nice post. Regarding spirituality I always have found that some concepts in Buddhism like impermanence help me understand and cope with feelings. However the most useful tool for self-soothing and even spiritual growth I´ve found has been meditation. Whether you do it for religious reasons or not it has a powerful relaxing effect, clears the mind and focus it for good. Hope you have a nice week. Miguel
Hi Debbie, nice post. Regarding spirituality I always have found that some concepts in Buddhism like impermanence help me understand and cope with feelings. However the most useful tool for self-soothing and even spiritual growth I´ve found has been meditation. Whether you do it for religious reasons or not it has a powerful relaxing effect, clears the mind and focus it for good. Hope you have a nice week. Miguel
Thank you for sharing. ♥
Thank you for sharing. ♥
Hello Becca,
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and experience with this. Lots of great insights. ♥
Hello Becca,
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and experience with this. Lots of great insights. ♥
Hi Ann. Thanks for sharing how practicing prayer is helpful to you in your recovery. ♥
Hi Ann. Thanks for sharing how practicing prayer is helpful to you in your recovery. ♥
That is so beautiful, Christina. I am glad you find comfort in connecting with your father in this way. I have many family members who look to those who have passed on for support as well. ♥
That is so beautiful, Christina. I am glad you find comfort in connecting with your father in this way. I have many family members who look to those who have passed on for support as well. ♥
Hi Julie., Thanks for your honest and kind comment. I think it's really neat that you are finding yourself through all of your experiences with spirituality. That can be a real challenge when you face identity disturbance issues. ♥
Hi Julie., Thanks for your honest and kind comment. I think it's really neat that you are finding yourself through all of your experiences with spirituality. That can be a real challenge when you face identity disturbance issues. ♥
Hi there Miguel. Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree that meditation practice can be so powerful — both as a calm to our nervous system and for spiritual connection. ♥
Hi there Miguel. Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree that meditation practice can be so powerful — both as a calm to our nervous system and for spiritual connection. ♥
I find that prayer gives me the comfort I need during the loneliest and scariest of times. I could choose to fill that empty hole inside of me with so many things (usually bad because why seek after good things during low moments when I hate and feel no gratitude or peace?) but if I can find the strength within myself to let go of my pride and pray to my Heavenly Father who loves me dearly and wants to help me, then I feel that comfort and love. And he becomes my anchor.
I find that prayer gives me the comfort I need during the loneliest and scariest of times. I could choose to fill that empty hole inside of me with so many things (usually bad because why seek after good things during low moments when I hate and feel no gratitude or peace?) but if I can find the strength within myself to let go of my pride and pray to my Heavenly Father who loves me dearly and wants to help me, then I feel that comfort and love. And he becomes my anchor.