One Thing at a Time… (DBT: One-Mindfully)

It’s actually been over two years now since I started DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) to treat my diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.DBT skills have become wonderfully integrated into my daily life. I practice them so naturally now that they have truly become a part of me. Well…but not all of them.  There are some skills […]

I’m Going to Massachusetts (in my mind): DBT Improve The Moment “Vacation”

There are times when we become very aware that the only way we will navigate the rough surf of an emotional crisis is to literally take things moment by moment. It doesn’t mean that we have to suffer through each moment. In fact, we can consciously and mindfully escape a moment or two here and […]

That’s just *YOUR* Story: Mind Reading (Distorted Thinking Style)

I recently wrote a post on the 15 Styles of Distorted Thinking.  It’s important to acknowledge when we have been operating in one of these styles and to further acknowledge when we are telling a story that we’ve created in that mindset. Years ago, I went to massage therapy school – more so to learn the spiritual […]

Lashing Out in Anger When We’re Hurting (Anger and BPD)

{via} The next time you’re feeling sad, guilty, remorseful, or even angry at yourself for lashing out a loved one, consider this:1.) We all have those moments when anger gets the best of us.  It’s important to remember to try our best next time to be more skillful. What we say and do matters.  That […]

Crisis Averted using DBT PLEASE Skills

I’m proud of myself. Today I experienced a medical issue that, when I last experienced it about a  year and a half a go, landed me in the ER in a state of panic.  It’s a good thing I did go the first time.  Doing so lead to a test the next day that showed […]

Television “Therapy” for Improving Your Mood

Do you feel guilty about the amount of time you spend watching television?  Are you watching as a way to be skillful, using the DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills of “Distract” and/or “Self-Soothing?”  Lately I’ve found a fun way to also make my television watching experience a mindful one. It also allows me to contribute […]

DBT Golden Nugget: What is Borderline Personality Disorder, and What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy? (Video)

I came across this informative, helpful video that answers two questions that I often receive from readers: What is Borderline Personality Disorder? What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy? Abbie Taylor, an MSW graduate student at Binghamton University addresses these questions in this short documentary (about 15 minutes in length.) What did you learn from this video? […]

How to Stop Destroying Your Life When You’re in an Emotional Crisis

This blog post focuses on how I have been able to keep myself from completely self-sabotaging during times of emotional crisis.  I didn’t have that ability before.  If you don’t have it now, it’s something you can work on and develop, just like I did. Here is what I’ve learned so far:First things first: STOP. […]

Change Your Mind, Change Your Life: Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Yesterday one of my readers, out of compassion and in hopes of helping me reduce my suffering over recent stressors, suggested I revisit a couple of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills that I have not visited in a while.They are: Looking at “Error Thinking” and Finding meaning in the pain I applied both, as follows, […]

DBT Golden Nugget: Coping Appropriately with Feelings of Anger and Irritability

Due to feeling disappointed and sad that my irritability continues, I decided to take a deeper look at what’s troubling me.  In that search, I realized that I feel sad, hurt, irritated, and angry that my “punishment” for being a whistleblower at work is that I am working from home, isolated and alone.I find being alone all […]