Transient, Stress-Related Paranoid Ideation and Borderline Personality Disorder

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I do exactly the same thing, if i'm in bed and hear a noise i immediately think someone has broken in and i am in danger.
I was put in situations as a child that were unsafe more than once by my mum.
Sometimes when i am out in the world i will see people that remind of people that were at a particular place/event and i will revert back to feeling the way i felt. Usually i run in the other direction.
I always go back to feeling unsafe. It's hard to tell yourself that you most probably aren't in any danger and that the random person accross the street that briefly looked at you isn't going to come after you for no good reason. It's even harder believing it.
Very difficult. Thanks for sharing this Debbie. There are many things i never thought i did but am now discovering daily through wise mind that i do alot.
I do exactly the same thing, if i'm in bed and hear a noise i immediately think someone has broken in and i am in danger.
I was put in situations as a child that were unsafe more than once by my mum.
Sometimes when i am out in the world i will see people that remind of people that were at a particular place/event and i will revert back to feeling the way i felt. Usually i run in the other direction.
I always go back to feeling unsafe. It's hard to tell yourself that you most probably aren't in any danger and that the random person accross the street that briefly looked at you isn't going to come after you for no good reason. It's even harder believing it.
Very difficult. Thanks for sharing this Debbie. There are many things i never thought i did but am now discovering daily through wise mind that i do alot.
I do the same thing as well. When i'm alone at home, i lock every door. I lock a total of 8 locks spread around the ground floor of our house cuz im afraid some1 would enter the house and rape/kill me. I also go paranoid when i see men on the street that have a certain age (fathers type age). Always scared they could come after me to harm me. I try everything to prevent the bad situation as in change the side of the street or turn around, take a different bus even if it takes longer than the original one. I cant convince myself that these people wont harm me, no matter what i do. All i wanna do is run away.
Thanks for sharing this, Debbie, i didnt actually think of it as bpd symptom but now i actually understand it.
I do the same thing as well. When i'm alone at home, i lock every door. I lock a total of 8 locks spread around the ground floor of our house cuz im afraid some1 would enter the house and rape/kill me. I also go paranoid when i see men on the street that have a certain age (fathers type age). Always scared they could come after me to harm me. I try everything to prevent the bad situation as in change the side of the street or turn around, take a different bus even if it takes longer than the original one. I cant convince myself that these people wont harm me, no matter what i do. All i wanna do is run away.
Thanks for sharing this, Debbie, i didnt actually think of it as bpd symptom but now i actually understand it.
My older brother would hide in the dark and jump out to scare me. Or he would make gurgling sounds, like the exorcist or something like that. He seemed very amused, but I was really scared and most important of all, my mother was to busy at her things to defend me or even to notice. I knew that at a very early stage, so it would have been useless to go to her and ask for protection. My brother was a parental figure to me, but also my torturer. At nearly 40, I'm still scared to enter a dark room, I'll run for the light switch in panic, even if (especially if) it's my OWN house and my brother lives miles away now. Elizabeth
My older brother would hide in the dark and jump out to scare me. Or he would make gurgling sounds, like the exorcist or something like that. He seemed very amused, but I was really scared and most important of all, my mother was to busy at her things to defend me or even to notice. I knew that at a very early stage, so it would have been useless to go to her and ask for protection. My brother was a parental figure to me, but also my torturer. At nearly 40, I'm still scared to enter a dark room, I'll run for the light switch in panic, even if (especially if) it's my OWN house and my brother lives miles away now. Elizabeth
Just reading above about their brother jumping out on them. My brother used to stare like he was dead or possessed it was so scary as I was 5 years younger than him, but the same thing my mum was to busy looking after my other brother who has severe spectrun autism, and also trying to keep my Dad happy when he came home from work, usually late drunk & abusive & violent. I witnessed my Mum being beaten by my Father many times, I guess thats why I don't have alot of faith in men. Sorry have to sign off now as I am causing my own 'Triggers' but THANK YOU for making the word 'Trigger' sound normal for once in my life. X BIG LOVE X
Just reading above about their brother jumping out on them. My brother used to stare like he was dead or possessed it was so scary as I was 5 years younger than him, but the same thing my mum was to busy looking after my other brother who has severe spectrun autism, and also trying to keep my Dad happy when he came home from work, usually late drunk & abusive & violent. I witnessed my Mum being beaten by my Father many times, I guess thats why I don't have alot of faith in men. Sorry have to sign off now as I am causing my own 'Triggers' but THANK YOU for making the word 'Trigger' sound normal for once in my life. X BIG LOVE X
Debbie, Debbie, Debbie. Once again you have hit the proverbial nail on the head. My paranoia appears mostly to be stress related as well. I become convinced everyone is plotting against me and are talking behind my back. I see everyone huddled up and whispering. Thank God for DBT to show me this isn't the case. My "gremlins " are feeling neglected and are wanting attention. MOST OF THE TIME
I cope best by trying to remember I am NOT the center of the universe and people do have quiet conversations. Also,I am blessed to have some people with whom I can actually tell how I am feeling and they can either confirm or deny. 9/10 deny.
Thanks
Debbie, Debbie, Debbie. Once again you have hit the proverbial nail on the head. My paranoia appears mostly to be stress related as well. I become convinced everyone is plotting against me and are talking behind my back. I see everyone huddled up and whispering. Thank God for DBT to show me this isn't the case. My "gremlins " are feeling neglected and are wanting attention. MOST OF THE TIME
I cope best by trying to remember I am NOT the center of the universe and people do have quiet conversations. Also,I am blessed to have some people with whom I can actually tell how I am feeling and they can either confirm or deny. 9/10 deny.
Thanks
I think the most frustrating part (for me) is that everything I "overreact" to or am "paranoid" of, I can see for what it really is when it's someone else experiencing it. 🙁
I think the most frustrating part (for me) is that everything I "overreact" to or am "paranoid" of, I can see for what it really is when it's someone else experiencing it. 🙁
Keep working on it, Katherine. ♥
Keep working on it, Katherine. ♥