Fear of Getting Older and Borderline Personality Disorder (Age Regression, Trauma)

One of the major components of having Borderline Personality Disorder, and often for sufferers of PTSD who were traumatized as children, is an intense fear of being abandoned.  For many of us, even sensing a change in facial expression, tone of voice, or mood in someone we love can cause us to panic and worry […]

Coping With Distressing Thoughts (i.e. Disordered Thinking, OCD, BPD)

Many of us can relate to finding ourselves on the hamster wheel, with repeated, intrusive, even disturbing thoughts that distress us.  Here are some common thoughts that many people with Borderline Personality Disorder (as well as those with eating disorders/disordered eating, OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and anxiety experience.) *Trigger Warning: You may want to skip this […]

Coping With Distressing Thoughts (i.e. Disordered Thinking, OCD, BPD)

Many of us can relate to finding ourselves on the hamster wheel, with repeated, intrusive, even disturbing thoughts that distress us.  Here are some common thoughts that many people with Borderline Personality Disorder (as well as those with eating disorders/disordered eating, OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and anxiety experience.) *Trigger Warning: You may want to skip this […]

PMS, PMDD, and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

I have been asked by a number of my female readers to share my experience with BPD in terms of how it becomes complicated during the week to ten days before my period, or PMS (premenstrual syndrome). My description will actually take it up a notch, as I am also diagnosed with PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric […]

My Wife Is Not Her [Borderline Personality] Disorder

I was so moved to read this beautiful love-letter of a post by Rowan about his experience of his wife, Aeshe, who he so eloquently describes while discussing his own, very real experience as a partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.  Read on, and be moved as I was. Welcome my guest blogger, Rowan. On: […]

Destructive Impulsivity in Borderline Personality Disorder

One of the most difficult aspects of having Borderline Personality Disorder has been the repeated destruction I created around and within my life, be it in jobs, personal relationships, school — you name it.  I was in so much emotional pain — overwhelmed by my emotions and unsure how to cope with or tolerate them […]

Dealing With Feeling Rejected and Coping With Fears of Abandonment (BPD)

I’ve made a lot of progress, but I must admit — for someone who has such a difficulty engaging much in intimate relationships, including friendships, I can become quite distraught when I sense that someone doesn’t like me. It doesn’t matter who it is, and it doesn’t even matter whether I even like the person […]

Who Are You Really? Non Judgment and Identity Issue with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

This week for a writing class, I had to choose a poem to write about.  I chose this one and submitted my assignment this morning. The poem so powerfully moved me that I decided to share it with all of you as well: Let go of your worries by Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎) Let […]

Full Video Version of the Open Letter to Non-BPDs From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder (and French video version)

  This is the FULL video version of the Open Letter From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder. Please feel free to share this with loved ones to help them understand what you so bravely face every day. You can read the full letter here (it went viral!): An Open Letter From those of us […]