Who Are You Really? Non Judgment and Identity Issue with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
This week for a writing class, I had to choose a poem to write about. I chose this one and submitted my assignment this morning. The poem so powerfully moved me that I decided to share it with all of you as well:
Let go of your worries
by Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī (Persian: جلالالدین محمد بلخى)
Let go of your worries
and be completely clear-hearted,
like the face of a mirror
that contains no images.
If you want a clear mirror,
behold yourself
and see the shameless truth,
which the mirror reflects.
If metal can be polished
to a mirror-like finish,
what polishing might the mirror
of the heart require?
Between the mirror and the heart
is this single difference:
the heart conceals secrets,
while the mirror does not.
and be completely clear-hearted,
like the face of a mirror
that contains no images.
If you want a clear mirror,
behold yourself
and see the shameless truth,
which the mirror reflects.
If metal can be polished
to a mirror-like finish,
what polishing might the mirror
of the heart require?
Between the mirror and the heart
is this single difference:
the heart conceals secrets,
while the mirror does not.
How does this poem speak to you on your road of recovery and healing?
Can you identify some phrases that can be likened to the DBT skill of “non-judgment”?
How does it relate, for you, to a core issue of identity disturbance in Borderline Personality Disorder?
Christina Aguilera’s song, “Reflections” may also move you to think about these issues.
Thanks for reading.
More Soon.
My identity disturbance is i struggle being attracted mentally, emotionally, and physically to other women. I develop "crushes" on other women; right now i have a crush on the receptionist at my dr's office and i can't stop thinking about her and i even sneek peeks of her pics on facebook. The thing is, I am a married woman, to a man, and will be married to him for 11 years this august. My husband knows i struggle with being attracted to other women; i just don't go into details; like telling him who i'm attracted to. HELP
i love my husband, i really really do; he has been there for me since day one; i just struggle with being attracted to women; the thing is being attracted/having relationships with the same sex goes against my beliefs; i'm just confused and i need someone to talk to
I have those feelings at times, there is nothing wrong to have a spectrum of attraction for the same gender, even if you are hetero. I would let go of your "beliefs" and figure out what you really feel and want. I think it would be helpful to talk to someone because you deserve to be true to who you are, accept, embrace and love yourself.
I have those feelings at times, there is nothing wrong to have a spectrum of attraction for the same gender, even if you are hetero. I would let go of your "beliefs" and figure out what you really feel and want. I think it would be helpful to talk to someone because you deserve to be true to who you are, accept, embrace and love yourself.