It can be really frustrating to realize that we are not where we hoped or wished we would be at this point in our lives. I used to get very jealous and depressed when others my age around me were graduating from college, getting married, starting families, and I seemed desperately stuck in the same drama that I had always been.
- Radically and totally accepting that the past is the past. It happened. It can’t be re-done. I can’t go back and re-do my childhood — there is no time machine (though we can create healing experiences for ourselves as adults.)
- Learning why and how I was continually sabotaging my life and how I was the ONE and ONLY person who could put a stop to it and end the drama. (I wrote about this extensively in my books on my experience living with and healing from Borderline Personality Disorder.)