Not All Self-Harm is Physical: A DBT Strategy for Self-Destructive Impulses

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Wow Debbie. Thank you so much for posting this. It helps to know that I am not the only one who has these issues. I deal with so much self-loathing and rejection because of my past actions, that I have a hard time not reaching out to feel acceptance or love, whether real or imaginary. So I have to try and stay very aware of my actions so that I am only making positive moves, and not harmful ones. Thank you again for sharing 🙂
Wow Debbie. Thank you so much for posting this. It helps to know that I am not the only one who has these issues. I deal with so much self-loathing and rejection because of my past actions, that I have a hard time not reaching out to feel acceptance or love, whether real or imaginary. So I have to try and stay very aware of my actions so that I am only making positive moves, and not harmful ones. Thank you again for sharing 🙂
Debbie, thank you so much for sharing. It is amazing to me that some of what you are feeling and going through are things that I think and feel. Your page has helped me a lot. The last few months have been so very difficult for me. I believe now that I am on the right track to some sense of stability. I thank you for all you do to help people. Melanie
Debbie, thank you so much for sharing. It is amazing to me that some of what you are feeling and going through are things that I think and feel. Your page has helped me a lot. The last few months have been so very difficult for me. I believe now that I am on the right track to some sense of stability. I thank you for all you do to help people. Melanie
Another great post Debbie. I find recognizing if I am in the emotional, rational or wise mind to be a good skill to use in situations like this. (Skill-Wise Mind) For instance noticing I am in the emotional mind and about to make a rash decision, I can step away and work on moving into Wise Mind giving me time to deescalate and then make an often wiser decision in a better "head space."
You are very welcome, Crimson, and thanks for your kind comment. 🙂
You're welcome, Melanie. I am so pleased to read this. Thank you very much! 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing, Alicia, and for your kind words. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing, Alicia, and for your kind words. 🙂
Debbie,
Tapering off your medication and starting a new medication is quite difficult, my thoughts are with you. Always remember that it isn't just you and you're not alone in what you're going through. Both tapers in medication and newly introduced medication cause us 'all' to experience a vast array of effects that can be very negative. The effects we may feel don't last forever, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and issues that were once capped by other medication can be put into remission again. You know it's possible. It may seem slow going getting there but all journeys lead to a destination with time. 🙂 My thoughts are with you always.
Debbie,
Tapering off your medication and starting a new medication is quite difficult, my thoughts are with you. Always remember that it isn't just you and you're not alone in what you're going through. Both tapers in medication and newly introduced medication cause us 'all' to experience a vast array of effects that can be very negative. The effects we may feel don't last forever, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and issues that were once capped by other medication can be put into remission again. You know it's possible. It may seem slow going getting there but all journeys lead to a destination with time. 🙂 My thoughts are with you always.
Glass, thank you for taking the time to leave this kind, insightful comment. ♥
Glass, thank you for taking the time to leave this kind, insightful comment. ♥
((((hugs))))prayers for you Debbie.
((((hugs))))prayers for you Debbie.
I AM happy i clicked on this post you shared!! i am so JUST BEGINNING anything DBT & this is very helpful to see that even after just one DBT one on one therapy session with a counsellor, that i see with only focusing on the Mindfulness at the present time with counselling, i do see there is hope for me….so overwhelming & challenging to remember to do all these thing ie. "self-care plan", which i know i will find difficult at first but with support i am sure i will figure it out. thanks again for your sharing!!! i have so much to read & experience with BPD & using DBT with it, it is quite challenging right now. I hope you made it thru this situation you wrote about here & are feeling much better with all of it 🙂 HUGS Judie
I AM happy i clicked on this post you shared!! i am so JUST BEGINNING anything DBT & this is very helpful to see that even after just one DBT one on one therapy session with a counsellor, that i see with only focusing on the Mindfulness at the present time with counselling, i do see there is hope for me….so overwhelming & challenging to remember to do all these thing ie. "self-care plan", which i know i will find difficult at first but with support i am sure i will figure it out. thanks again for your sharing!!! i have so much to read & experience with BPD & using DBT with it, it is quite challenging right now. I hope you made it thru this situation you wrote about here & are feeling much better with all of it 🙂 HUGS Judie