As I lay in bed the other night feeling restless and moody, I began to search for what was causing my distress. As an emotionally sensitive person (who is becoming better at managing intense emotions with time and lots of continued DBT practice,) I am still and likely may always be a little more annoyed at little things than the average person; a little more reactive or more easily activated emotionally by things that others may take in stride.
Some sensitive people find this way of using the skill difficult, as they then begin to feel guilt and sorrow for the less fortunate. It is okay to experience that briefly, but the goal is to realize how good you have it compared with how things could be.
I’ll never forget the kindness of the crew that night that put together a huge bag of food for me. I thought of this in connection with how I complained the other evening about my “boring” yet abundant, healthy, and delicious leftovers that I had that evening and which allowed me to go to sleep with a full belly.