One of the things that I like to be sure to tell my new students is something that I hope will leave them feeling empowered and motivated. It’s something that they may have never been told before and something that they may have difficulty believing, and it’s this:
It doesn’t happen overnight, and if you’re like me (determined but imperfect), you might fall down a few times before you really get consistent with living skillfully.
As we learn Mindfulness, we discover ways to slow down our thoughts, and more importantly, our REACTIONS to those thoughts. We put a buffer of time between the initial thought or intense emotion and taking any action — especially actions that we often later regret (which involve self-sabotage or harm on any level.)
As you go through the rest of the week, when you notice an intense emotion or upsetting thought, try just noticing it. Notice that you can have the thought or feeling with the option of choice of acting on it. Try with little things at first to build up your confidence.
For example, let’s say someone cuts you off in traffic. The immediate tendency for most of us is to tense up, tell ourselves what an idiot the other person must be, and maybe to even give them a rude gesture. Look for opportunities like this to just notice, observe, and describe your experience without taking any action. Make a different choice. Think higher.
“I was just cut off by that person. I notice this makes me angry. I notice I’m feeling tense. I can release this. It has passed. I can move on. All is well.”
Every moment is a choice.
I hope this helped you in some way today.
Thanks for reading.