Tolerating Being Alone When You Have BPD

I can recall with great detail the distress I used to experience when I needed to spend time alone.  Most of the time, even an hour was difficult, let alone an entire day or evening.  I didn’t understand at the time, but there was a lot going on that contributed to my inability to tolerate others […]

Why Are We So Affected By Robin Williams’ Death?

This is going to be a very difficult post.  Life sometimes is difficult. I like to put it as: it’s not all rainbows and unicorns.  The good news is, that we can reach out, get the help we need, and build our resiliency. While there is much pain in the world, there is also much […]

How to Not Be Controlled By Your Mood (Using Mindfulness)

In most treatments for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and other issues involving emotion dysregulation, you are very likely to encounter the subject of mindfulness and how implementing it into your life can help reduce your suffering and overall symptoms.  The word “mindfulness” is often thrown around, though, so most people see it as an elusive […]

Distraction vs. Avoidance

For those of us who deal with intense emotions, whether due to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), BPD traits, or other reasons, we know how important it is to take a mindful, skillful break from our suffering through the use of conscious distraction. I call it conscious distraction, because in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), we use […]