to an employer… “I HATE this job, and I QUIT!”
to your child… “I miss what life was like before having kids!”
to anyone who’ll listen… “I should just kill myself*!”
Even though a person may seem (and feel!) horrible when they are uttering harsh words, if they are also experiencing regret and remorse, body sensations, or a knowing that this isn’t what they really want to be doing, what’s going on?
These can all be signs that the action (the hurtful speech) is not in alignment with who the person really is and what they REALLY want in that moment.