Entries by debbie

Choices and Borderline Personality Disorder

One of the things that I like to be sure to tell my new students is something that I hope will leave them feeling empowered and motivated.  It’s something that they may have never been told before and something that they may have difficulty believing, and it’s this:   “You have choices.  Even though you […]

Emotionally Sensitive & The Holidays

“Why aren’t you working?” “Why did you move back home?” “Are you not well?” and other triggering questions emotionally sensitive and people with Borderline Personality Disorder might hear this holiday season (and some ideas for coping.)   Editing issues led to an audio only video with a distorted Christmas tree.   Happy Holidays 😀 …. […]

Four Ways of Letting Go and Reducing Suffering (with DBT Skills References)

     I was so happy to come across this lecture by Buddhist monk, Ajahn Brahm,  on “Four Ways of Letting Go.”  The principles tie in quite nicely with Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a treatment that is often very effective at helping those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and other emotion regulation issues, and I’ll elaborate on that […]

Emotionally Sensitive in an “Always On” World

Emotionally sensitive people can find it especially difficult to cope with society’s “always on,” always doing something, always multitasking expectations. Even droves of averagely sensitive people have found themselves burned out and turning to self medicating or prescription drugs to literally take the edge off of life and numb the overwhelm.  This can’t be the […]

Boundaries: Should You Tell Someone That You Have BPD?

    One of the most common questions I am asked by my readers is “Should I tell ______________ that I have Borderline Personality Disorder?”  The blank is usually filled in with things like: my new boyfriend/girlfriend, my boss, my co-workers, people at my new school or church, and the like. Disclosing your mental health […]

7 Signs That You Might Be An Emotionally Sensitive Person

 You might be an emotionally sensitive person if… You cry at Cheerios commercials You sometimes literally seem to feel what others feel You have an especially hard time coping with criticism. You’ve been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar Disorder. You have a hard time sorting out and identifying what you’re actually feeling. You […]

Obsessive Love and BPD – When It’s Difficult To Let Go And Move On

What causes someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD traits to fall into (or back into) what some describe as “obsessive love,” especially when it comes to having difficulty letting go of a past lover? I asked myself this very same question.  Although I am in recovery from BPD, meaning I no longer meet […]