Entries by Healing From BPD

How to Not Be Controlled By Your Mood (Using Mindfulness)

In most treatments for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and other issues involving emotion dysregulation, you are very likely to encounter the subject of mindfulness and how implementing it into your life can help reduce your suffering and overall symptoms.  The word “mindfulness” is often thrown around, though, so most people see it as an elusive […]

Distraction vs. Avoidance

For those of us who deal with intense emotions, whether due to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), BPD traits, or other reasons, we know how important it is to take a mindful, skillful break from our suffering through the use of conscious distraction. I call it conscious distraction, because in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), we use […]

Coping with EXTREME Anxiety and Panic

Anxiety and Panic attacks can be SO SCARY!!!  If you agree, read on… Hey everyone. I am experiencing some intense/extreme anxiety since yesterday, and because I’ve become well versed in how to effectively cope even in the midst of feeling completely “crazy” and terrified during anxious episodes, I thought I’d share with you, as I […]

Are you selfish for being skillful?

There is a set of skills widely known to help those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), those of us who have BPD traits, and those of us who identify as being emotionally sensitive.  In particular today, I’ll be highlighting  “crisis survival” aka “Distress Tolerance” skills. These skills can be used to help us better cope […]

Tips for Managing Intense Emotions

In this video, I chip at the tip of the iceberg of skills we can use to manage very intense emotions.  I also share a bit of my own personal story around how devastatingly intense my emotions used to be and what began to help me take back my life. (Hint: It has to do […]

Clearing Our Space for Mental Clarity

What started out as a DBT distraction skill practice to tolerate distress has turned into so much more.  For years I’ve been managing what used to be a hoarding problem. Years ago I threw away so many bags of trash that it was unbelievable. At that point, my life changed.  I no longer filled my home […]