BPD: Outside In

BPD – Outside/In By Guest Blogger Sean Hayes   Outside Colleen was just finishing up a beast of a prep list when Sean arrived to start his dinner shift. Molasses oat bread cooling. Cowgirl Meatloaf resting in the pans. More than a dozen other recipes already crossed off the list. “Hello dear Momma C!” he […]

Understanding Cognitive Empathy vs. Emotional Empathy in BPD

  Navigating the Twin Paths of Empathy in BPD: A Personal Journey Hello, wonderful community! I’ve been reflecting on a topic that recently came up on our Facebook page. It’s about the different types of empathy we experience, especially as individuals navigating the complex world of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). As someone who’s been on […]

BPD: Triggered by the Amber Heard Trial

One of the hardest things about having BPD, BPD traits, or emotional sensitivity is that a lot of people don’t understand what it’s like. Most people don’t understand how our minds work and what we go through – and it’s frustrating. So that’s why the other day, I was shocked to see someone who reminded […]

Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder

  “Oh no, what have I done?!” How many times have you had this thought? It seems like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of doing things you regret, then wondering why you did them. I’m talking about impulsive behaviors such as substance abuse, quitting a job, lashing out, and self-harm. There are many types […]

Fear of Abandonment

When it comes to the fear of abandonment, I’m no stranger. I see pretty much EVERYTHING (a facial expression, a sigh, body language) as a sign that someone is going to leave me. I’m worried that if I make a mistake, mess up, aren’t “good enough” or disappoint my “favorite person” in any way, that […]

BPD: Does DBT Make You Inauthentic?

  Your wife asks you to help with a household task.  She’s been asking quite a bit lately.  You’re annoyed.  What you notice next is that your emotional reaction is getting big — to the point of rage even — as if something major has just happened. You have the urges to yell…to complain…to leave […]

Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like

BPD: Why Do We Get Triggered By TV, Movies, and Books?

  One of my online DBT students is choosing to notice and pay attention to how she can be quite sensitive TV shows, movies, books, and the like, causing her to feel emotionally dysregulated. So, we got curious about this. If you find that you’re sensitive to certain media content (the news, stories about animals, […]

The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient

  Please enjoy this guest post written by Eli Juniper Trigger Warning: Frank discussion of suicidal ideation. You. Yes, You. I have tried for so long to explain to You, to make You understand. You have been cruel, You have been ignorant, You have been dismissive. I have grown as a shadow of my true […]

The Choice to Not Abandon Myself

Some mornings, I wake up “scared to death.” I experienced this same fear when I was 20 years old and engaged to be married. For months, there was wedding planning and excitement. One week before the wedding, I woke up crying my eyes out (like I had done for a month or more). I felt […]