Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder

  “Oh no, what have I done?!” How many times have you had this thought? It seems like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of doing things you regret, then wondering why you did them. I’m talking about impulsive behaviors such as substance abuse, quitting a job, lashing out, and self-harm. There are many types […]

Fear of Abandonment

When it comes to the fear of abandonment, I’m no stranger. I see pretty much EVERYTHING (a facial expression, a sigh, body language) as a sign that someone is going to leave me. I’m worried that if I make a mistake, mess up, aren’t “good enough” or disappoint my “favorite person” in any way, that […]

BPD: Does DBT Make You Inauthentic?

  Your wife asks you to help with a household task.  She’s been asking quite a bit lately.  You’re annoyed.  What you notice next is that your emotional reaction is getting big — to the point of rage even — as if something major has just happened. You have the urges to yell…to complain…to leave […]

Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like

BPD: Why Do We Get Triggered By TV, Movies, and Books?

  One of my online DBT students is choosing to notice and pay attention to how she can be quite sensitive TV shows, movies, books, and the like, causing her to feel emotionally dysregulated. So, we got curious about this. If you find that you’re sensitive to certain media content (the news, stories about animals, […]

The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient

  Please enjoy this guest post written by Eli Juniper Trigger Warning: Frank discussion of suicidal ideation. You. Yes, You. I have tried for so long to explain to You, to make You understand. You have been cruel, You have been ignorant, You have been dismissive. I have grown as a shadow of my true […]

The Choice to Not Abandon Myself

Some mornings, I wake up “scared to death.” I experienced this same fear when I was 20 years old and engaged to be married. For months, there was wedding planning and excitement. One week before the wedding, I woke up crying my eyes out (like I had done for a month or more). I felt […]

BPD & Feeling Crazy…Am I?

  If you’ve been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, BPD traits, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD, or complex cPTSD), it’s very likely that you’ve had the worrisome thought, “Am I crazy?”  If you suffer from anxiety and panic attacks on top of emotional sensitivity, it’s even more likely.  You may also from time to time […]

Got BPD? Doesn’t Mean Everything is Your Fault (Gas Lighting, Adult Bullies, and Narcissism)

                        Rather listen than read? Here’s the audio version of this article:     Recently a reader brought up a very good point that I’ve been meaning to address: it’s *NOT* always the person with borderline personality disorder, BPD traits, or emotional sensitivity that […]

BPD, Trauma, Outbursts, & Reality Checks: How much of this is actually real?

One of the things that people with borderline personality disorder, BPD traits, or emotional sensitivity often say is an issue for them that causes a lot of regret, shame, and apologizing, is what might be summed up as “emotional outbursts”  — those moments when, even though you’ve already apologized recently for flying off the handle, […]