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DBT Prayers: A Skill for the Spiritual Seeker (Distress Tolerance)

In this video, I discuss the DBT Distress Tolerance skill of Prayer, which falls under the IMPROVE the Moment component. Thank you for watching and reading.More Soon. If you enjoyed this video, you may like this post:DBT Distress Tolerance Skill: Prayer

Dealing With Feeling Rejected and Coping With Fears of Abandonment (BPD)

I’ve made a lot of progress, but I must admit — for someone who has such a difficulty engaging much in intimate relationships, including friendships, I can become quite distraught when I sense that someone doesn’t like me. It doesn’t matter who it is, and it doesn’t even matter whether I even like the person […]

Coping With The Unknown And Life’s Curveballs

Without getting into a load of medical details, I underwent an MRI today.  It came back with some abnormalities, which I learned via an email this evening from my neurologist. I need to go to the lab tomorrow for blood work and then possibly a lumbar puncture the following week. When I saw the email […]

Surviving an Emotional Storm Sandy | Borderline Personality Disorder & Intense Emotions

While our friends and family on the east coast brace for the effects of Hurricane Sandy, many of us all over the world are coping with emotional / mental health storms within.For many months, I’ve been writing about an upcoming work-related meeting. It’s finally happening this Wednesday.  Thinking about all of the hours between now […]

Radically Accepting Uncomfortable Emotions (DBT)

Today’s Distress Tolerance DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) class focused on the Acceptance skill.  When our therapist began describing how we would practice this skill, it felt very counter-intuitive to me.  What? You want me to ACCEPT the intense anxiety I’ve been experiencing? Heck no! I want to kick at it and scream at it and push it […]

DBT Distress Tolerance Skill: Prayer

This week in DBT, one of my fellow group members went over her Diary Card. She shared that she used the skill of Prayer, a Distress Tolerance Skill that falls under the “Improve The Moment Section.”ImageryMeaningPrayerRelaxationOne thing at a timeVacationEncouragement(Above list from page 165 of what I consider to be the essential DBT Bible: Skills Training […]

When The Pain Won’t Go Away (Tolerating Distress & Not Making Things Worse)

Sometimes when we are in great emotional pain or distress, it seems as if the way we are feeling will never end.  We may feel like we can’t tolerate the pain, stress, anxiety, loneliness, or other difficult emotion for much longer and don’t know what to do. In a desperate attempt to “feel better now,” we […]

The Setup Setback: Abandonment and Impulsiveness issues with Borderline Personality Disorder

Do those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder tend to act or behave in ways that set us up for our worst fear: abandonment?  This post explores this question with my own personal example.As some of my Twitter and Facebook followers know, I have been going through a stressful ordeal. And while I can’t get […]

“Re-Wiring” our Nervous System’s Reaction to Stress and Trauma (using Dialectical Behavior Therapy)

This week in the Distress Tolerance DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) group that I attend, our therapist/group leader spoke about the interesting ways in which our nervous systems have been conditioned and thus affect our present responses and reactions to stress.I learned that our nervous systems have adapted to react to stressful situations based on past […]

How Can I Help You (And Help Myself)? | DBT Distraction Skill of Contributing

Have you ever noticed how doing something kind, thoughtful, or helpful for someone else when you’re in an emotional funk can also make YOU feel better?  That’s the topic of this blog post. In her immensely helpful DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) companion workbook Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder, Dr. Linehan (the founder […]