Tag Archive for: lonely

Dealing With Feeling Rejected and Coping With Fears of Abandonment (BPD)

I’ve made a lot of progress, but I must admit — for someone who has such a difficulty engaging much in intimate relationships, including friendships, I can become quite distraught when I sense that someone doesn’t like me. It doesn’t matter who it is, and it doesn’t even matter whether I even like the person […]

Loneliness and Connecting With Others

Many of us with Borderline Personality Disorder know what it means to feel lonely.  In my personal experience, I feel that I am a good, likable person at heart — someone who has something to contribute and who likes lifting others up in word and deed. I enjoy being around others and conversing — be it a […]

5 Steps To Get Out of a FUNK and Reclaim Your Life

    I recently decided to pull myself out of what I refer to as “a funk.” Since no longer working outside of the home, I grew very used to staying at home all day in my pajamas, hanging out with the cats,and being online.  At first, I felt anxious about it. I judged myself as […]

DBT Practice: Creating a Life Worth Living and Interpersonal Effectiveness

One of the main goals of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is for the patient to take steps toward “Creating a Life Worth Living,” according to DBT’s founder, Dr. Marsha Linehan.  Today I had a chance to practice this while also practicing Interpersonal Effectiveness skills – one of the four modules in the program. Creating a […]

Interpersonal Effectiveness (DBT): Why I Don’t Have Friends (BPD)

In an effort to improve my Interpersonal Effectiveness skills and, ultimately, work toward continuing to “create a life worth living” – the motto of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy),  I have taken the risk of reach out to a few people to see if they want to get together.  It was terrifying. The mere thought of the rejection and their […]

Feeling Lonely: Just Me & my BPD

I feel lonely today, and I have fought back tears on a couple of occasions – once during a quiet moment in yoga this morning, and another just now as I began typing this.  You see, I’ve done a good job at isolating myself so that I don’t have to try at relationships.  I had […]