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Obsessive Love and BPD – When It’s Difficult To Let Go And Move On

What causes someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD traits to fall into (or back into) what some describe as “obsessive love,” especially when it comes to having difficulty letting go of a past lover? I asked myself this very same question.  Although I am in recovery from BPD, meaning I no longer meet […]

Challenging BPD-Related Distorted Thinking to Reduce Your Suffering

In  my early twenties, there were some very specific behaviors that I engaged in related to the BPD symptoms of paranoid ideation and an intense fear of being abandoned.  In this video, my goal is to reach out to those of you with whom these behaviors may ring a bell. If today is when you […]

Myth: Never Date a Girl With BPD

We all know that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) carries with it lots of stigma that causes its sufferers to often feel ashamed and ostracized  A great deal of the work that I do with this website and all over the world involves putting human faces to the diagnosis — a dx that is so often grossly […]

DBT Golden Nugget: Yes We Can! (Borderline Personality Disorder)

Introducing DBT Golden Nuggets from HealingFromBPD.org.  These will be shorter posts that appear now and then on the blog and that address a quick tip around Borderline Personality Disorder and Dialectical Behavior Therapy.  I hope you find them helpful!Today’s DBT Golden Nugget is: Yes We Can!DBT even appears in my dreams!  Last night, I dreamed […]

She likes me, She likes me not. | Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (BPD)

I recently decided to let my walls down a bit when it comes to connecting with others.  A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about a blossoming friendship with my coworker. For the most part, things have been going well, though I must admit that figuring out boundaries, not getting too intense, and not worrying […]

Hello. I Love You. Won’t you tell me your name? | Boundaries and Borderline Personality Disorder

“Hello. I love you. Won’t you tell me your name?”  Boundaries and Borderline Personality Disorder — That’s what this post is about.   When I first meet someone, I know that all of my insecurities come up. I desperately want everyone to like and approve of me.  Of course, this probably stems from a childhood […]

DBT Practice: Creating a Life Worth Living and Interpersonal Effectiveness

One of the main goals of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is for the patient to take steps toward “Creating a Life Worth Living,” according to DBT’s founder, Dr. Marsha Linehan.  Today I had a chance to practice this while also practicing Interpersonal Effectiveness skills – one of the four modules in the program. Creating a […]

DBT Skills in the Workplace | An Example

I am excited to share with you an experience I had today at work. It was a very practical application of DBT skills.  I hope that by reading it you will be encouraged to continue your journey with hope, as things truly DO GET BETTER with hard work and time! In the past, including in […]

I Wish I Would Keep My Word

Here is something, like most of my less desirable behaviors, that I am not proud of.  It’s something I’m not even entirely motivated to work on, yet it bothers me on some level. I am not very good at keeping commitments.  For example, my boyfriend and I both agreed – mutually – that he would […]

Feeling Lonely: Just Me & my BPD

I feel lonely today, and I have fought back tears on a couple of occasions – once during a quiet moment in yoga this morning, and another just now as I began typing this.  You see, I’ve done a good job at isolating myself so that I don’t have to try at relationships.  I had […]