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DBT Distress Tolerance Skill of Comparisons: How and Why To Use It

As I lay in bed the other night feeling restless and moody, I began to search for what was causing my distress. As an emotionally sensitive person (who is becoming better at managing intense emotions with time and lots of continued DBT practice,) I am still and likely may always be a little more annoyed […]

Who Are You Really? Non Judgment and Identity Issue with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

This week for a writing class, I had to choose a poem to write about.  I chose this one and submitted my assignment this morning. The poem so powerfully moved me that I decided to share it with all of you as well: Let go of your worries by Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎) Let […]

Guilt Vs. Shame | Understanding Emotions: What is the difference between Guilt and Shame?

We’ve all experienced the emotions of guilt and shame, but it can sometimes be difficult to differentiate between the two. The distinction is important for understanding our emotions, our reactions to them, and how to heal from the painful event that caused guilt and/or shame. I recently filled out an Emotion Regulation Worksheet 1a to cope with […]

Does The Moon Affect Our Moods? | Emotion Dysregulation

As someone with Borderline Personality Disorder who experiences intense emotions that often get dysregulated, I’m always interested in learning about possible causes or connections to shifts in mood. I’ll even go so far as to consider the urban legend that the full moon can cause strange things to happen here on earth. If you had […]

Iyanla Fix My Life: How Family Secrets And Pathology Affect Us (and how to break free)

I love watching talk-style television shows where real people deal with real problems, and I get to witness them heal.  As a person recovering from years of undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder and who has been “doing her work” to heal, I am inspired by watching others doing their own, powerful, inner work.One such show that […]

The Empathetic Emotionally Sensitive Person (With Boundary Issues)

Do you ever feel what other people are feeling, even if your own personal circumstances do not match?  Some might say that I am an “empath.”  I say that I am someone with Borderline Personality Disorder who has to be careful not to take on others’ emotions as my own.Today was very draining.  Nothing really […]

Triggers When You Have BPD or PTSD | Polarized Thinking

A number of things come to mind that I could write about today.  I think I will talk about triggers. I have a personal trigger where I have a very difficult time accepting criticism. It’s not because I believe I am perfect and don’t deserve it, but as someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder, I […]