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BPD, Trauma, and WHY the f*#k did I just say that?!

As an emotionally sensitive person or someone with borderline personality disorder or BPD traits, have you ever found yourself saying anything along the lines of the following, all the while regretting each word as it’s coming out of your mouth?:   to a spouse/partner… “I HATE you and want a divorce….” “I can’t do this […]

Start off the New Year with DBT Skill of Contributing

We recently talked about the important role of self-care in our well being, and I continue to maintain that this is a priority.  While we are doing doing that, we can still serve others, but from a place of feeling like our own cup is full, or in the example of air travel, that our own oxygen mask […]

A Radically Changed Life: Seeing the Positive Effects of DBT (Guest Post by Heather)

Please welcome Heather of Breaking Free/Becoming Me with her first guest post at HFBPD. It’s been a little over five months since I started dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and I have to say these have been the most challenging and rewarding five months of my life. That’s not an exaggeration. I’ve had ups and downs […]

DBT For Coping With Fear at the Dentist

Fear is an interesting thing. We have the ability to experience fear as a protective instinct, but for many of us who are emotionally sensitive, a part of our brain that senses and responds to danger (the amygdala) can go into overdrive, sending Emergency Broadcast System style warnings to us that something is dreadfully wrong, […]

DBT Distress Tolerance Skill of Comparisons: How and Why To Use It

As I lay in bed the other night feeling restless and moody, I began to search for what was causing my distress. As an emotionally sensitive person (who is becoming better at managing intense emotions with time and lots of continued DBT practice,) I am still and likely may always be a little more annoyed […]

Impulsivity with Texting, Social Media, and Emails (and Suggested DBT Skills)

Yesterday on my Facebook page, we talked about when our emotions get the best of us and we behave impulsively, such as sending texts or emails that we later regret. Here was my original post: Sometimes our emotions can be so powerful that we feel compelled to make impulsive decisions that we later regret — […]

5 Ways to Have a Great Day – Even if Your BPD Symptoms Are Acting Up!

Please welcome blogger Tracy  from The Messy Art of Living with her very first guest post here at Healing From BPD: First I present to you a scenario that has easily ruined more days then I care to say: I wake up with the best intentions, bright-eyed and eager to get the morning started. Suddenly […]

911 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills for When You’re Triggered

When things get so intense that you begin to go into crisis, it’s time to pull out your 911 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills. In this post, I will briefly go into a situation that triggered me today (it’s about an abusive alcoholic… if that might be a trigger for you, you can skip the italicized […]

Push My Buttons Experiment

Today at work, I noticed that DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is really helping me “Create a Life Worth Living,” which is the motto of the program created by Dr. Marsha Linehan. My day started out beautifully. It was unseasonably warm outside, I was working on fun projects, and despite it being “that time of the month,” I […]

Some Thoughts on Judging | Borderline Personality Disorder

Last week in DBT class, we talked about judging. According to Dr. Marsha Linehan, the pioneer of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) for BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder / Emotion Regulation Disorder): “Judging is when you observe a fact and then add an evaluation of good or bad.” Her recommendation is to “non-judgmentally observe a fact and […]